A documentary about the marriage of two adults with intellectual disabilities is up for an Emmy award. The film, “Monica & David,” premiered in 2010 on HBO.
Journalist Michelle Diament writes … “When Monica and David Martinez got married five years ago, they were not your average bride and groom — both have Down Syndrome. Deeply in love and committed to each other, their union nonetheless put the couple among a minority of people with developmental disabilities walking down the aisle.”
Ms. Diament’s interesting 2010 article came to mind upon receiving an email from one of our readers.
“I have a 27 year old daughter with mild MR who wants to get married. Would like to find an LDS group with similar needs to get ideas from and know how to handle a situation such as this. I need help!”
As Latter-day Saints, we put considerable emphasis on marriage … culturally as well as doctrinally. No child growing up in the Church, however challenged, can fail to absorb that. But what factors go into determining whether marriage and its responsibilities are feasible for a given individual, particularly when his or her disability is an intellectual one? And who gets to be involved in that decision? Certainly, parents have a stake. What about Church leaders? Are Bishops prepared to counsel in this area? With agency being a core principle of the gospel, at what level of accountability does that have to be respected? And then — let’s just say it — there’s the question of childbearing.
This may be an uncomfortable topic for some, but let’s discuss it. Let’s be there for this sister. Let’s be the source of insight, education, and comfort The Liahona Project was created to be.